This can be a difficult time for therapists, both personally and professionally. I remember the year a long-term client became suicidal on Christmas Eve. I chose to step-up and manage the situation, and miss Christmas eve with my family. So, just for good measure, take excellent care of yourself over the holidays so you can be a resource for others when they need you.
Since you need to be at your best, here are a few ideas to add to your bag of tricks:
1. Enjoy "soul-nourishing" conversations. Your in the business of talking to people in need and may need a change of pace. If you're at a gathering ask questions like:
What's your favorite holiday memory?
Have you seen any holiday movies lately that were joyful?
Do you have any exciting plans for 2008?
2. Get out and move your body. OK, this isn't new but it's really worth reminding you of. Walking anywhere, outside or even at a mall moves things inside and just makes you feel better.
3. Eat protein first. When attending parties, start your meals with some kind of protein (meat, eggs, nuts, cheese, etc.) so you have less room for the empty calories found in tempting desserts.
4. Drink a lot of water. If the weather is cold and dry where you are, you'll need to be more conscious of staying hydrated. Remember, when you feel thirsty, it's an indication that you're already dehydrated. Bring a bottle of water with you wherever you go, and remember that alcohol, soft drinks, coffee, and tea are not hydrating liquids -- they actually deplete your body of water.
5. Bow out of the parties that leave you feeling empty inside. Choosing to disappoint someone else may be just what you need to do to make sure you don't disappoint yourself. Gently let family and friends know that you feel the need to sit this one out. Don't defend, over explain, or debate your decision. Simply be gracious and firm. Your "soul-care" is always a valid excuse. I did this last week, felt guilty bowing out, and had a wonderful, quiet evening with the family.
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